3somer… “it’s a magic number”

Over the weekend we headed into Washington, DC, to host an event at a Swingers Club and we got talking about how difficult to navigate the usual lifestyle sites are on a cell phone. They all have their quirks that just don’t make them work as well on a mobile platform. Recently, however, we have started to give an app a try that we have so far found to be pretty intuitive & easy to use: 3somer.

Downloading 3somer was free & easy. It’s available in the iTunes Store & Google Play.

The app is secured with a pattern recognition lock which, especially for a couple, can make it easier to remember than a password.

Setting up a free account was quick & actually fun. Yes, they ask you to write a little bit about yourself, but to help you find who you are looking for they ask you a series of interesting multiple-choice personality questions like, “How important is it for a partner to smell good?”, “Do you have hobbies & outside interests?” and “How do you react to people that swear often?” Once we got through the preliminaries we uploaded a photo; we chose to keep ourselves discrete by cropping our faces in the photo strategically.  There are private photo galleries that you can upload more “open” photos to that only those you have granted access will be able to see.  The set-up all-in-all was pretty quick & painless.

The 3somer interface itself is clean & uncluttered.  Unlike some apps, icons are labelled to help you understand what they mean; there are no worries about clicking on something by mistake & pinging that guy you were trying to skip.

“Liking” someone can’t be any easier, you have the option of clicking a ❤️ which then asks if you would like to send a chat request or “continue playing.” Swiping right does the same thing & makes things move quickly.  Swiping left or clicking the   tells 3somer you don’t feel like there is a match & the app moves you on to the new profile. If the other profile has marked you as one they like as well, you get a notification that “it’s a match!”

What we REALLY like, even though it is called 3somer, you aren’t just limited to looking up singles as a couple & singles aren’t limited to just searching couples either. Couples can search couples and singles and there are multiple options to search for as well.  You can search for singles males, single females, Couples (FM), Couples (FF), Couples (MM), & TS/TG/TV members. The app works quite well in that respect. Most of our matches are from other couples; anyone following Swing! knows couples are right up our alley.  😜

One area where 3somer is still improving is the number of members. Yes, we did get to view many, many profiles in our area but a few with similar interests that came up as matches were many States away. This of course will change as more & more people try out 3somer.

All-in-all we really like 3somer, the design is clean and easy to use.  The app doesn’t have any glitches, lock-ups or slowdowns from our experience.  We found many matches within our 100 mile radius, considering we live in a small town but we are 50 miles from Washington, D.C., that was pretty impressive. We’ll keep using 3somer it looks like it will work for our needs.

Swing! is back…

Really, we never went anywhere, life just got in the way. Kids going back to school. Weddings galore. Hubby had a traumatic back injury… You know: life. Anywho, we are back with another event at Shadows Social Club in Hyattsville, MD, THIS Saturday, January 13th! Gulp… Well to sort of follow with the theme of what we’ve been doing out here on the east coast freezing our asses off for the last few weeks, we are gonna have a pajama party! Yes, you can wear your pajamas all day & night yet again AND leave the house for a change. Whoo-hoo!

I’ll just be glad to get out of the house & maybe we’ll find some new friends to fuck.

Are we too picky?

Let me preface this with “WE ARE NOT KEN & BARBIE.”  You’ll see that phrase a lot when you go on a Swinger Lifestyle sites like SwingLifestyle, Kasidie, Quiver, Swingers Date Club or SwingTowns. But in this case I am actually talking about us. Hubby & I are comfortably in our 40s.  I’m closer to 40 while Hubby is closing in on 50.  We both have a few extra pounds but we are both trying to shed a few. Why do I bring this up?  Just to let you know we aren’t 30-something Swingers with rock-hard abs & even my boobs are still my originals too.  LOL

While we do love meeting new people, not everyone we meet is someone we want to play with. We pretty much assume everyone else is like this as well. We don’t take offense if someone isn’t interested in us. We aren’t everyone else’s cup of tea either. When we first started Swinging a few years ago, I was in my early-30s & Hubby had just hit 40 himself.  Back then we were a pretty hot property.  Apparently we were young enough that we piqued the interest of many more Swingers than we do now. Now, things have changed somewhat.  We play less, but we are more selective. Appearances are not always the driving factor for us, we usually prefer if there is that “connection” with another couple/single before we become interested in fucking them.

Age can be a deciding factor for us. Lately, and I’m not sure why, we have been getting more contacts from Swingers in their late 60s. Some are as much as 20 years older than Hubby and that puts them pert-near 70 years old.  While we are getting older, Hubby & I aren’t quite ready to go there yet.  So far the biggest age difference for us with playmates has been we played wth a 23 year-old couple when Hubby was 43 and we played with a 55 year-old couple (she looked like Ginger Grant in her prime from Gilligan’s Island) when I was 37.  However, those couples were a good fit for us at the time though so the age differences didn’t matter.  We just had sexy fun times fucking. But frankly, we haven’t found anyone we have been attracted to that is 20 years older than Hubby or even 20 years older than me for that matter. Yes, age is just a number, but there has to be that connection too. That doesn’t mean I am saying “don’t contact us if you are old.” It just means, don’t be offended if we say “thank you, but we feel we aren’t really compatible.”

You be fair & polite with us & we will do the same for you. After all, “We aren’t Ken & Barbie.” 


Meet & Greet Fun with MISCHIEF XXXmas in July!

People NOT currently in the Swinger Lifestyle seem to have this impression that it’s all people getting together & fucking right then & there no matter who or where they are.  That’s not how a Meet & Greet works.  Swinger Meet & Greets are usually held in “Vanilla” (Swinger term for non-Swinger) Bars or Clubs.  Meet & Greets are a great way for meeting new people in the Lifestyle without feeling pressured to go & play.  Let’s face it, not everyone is interested in playing with everyone & Meet & Greets give you a chance to get to know people in a neutral setting. Many of our Swinger friends we just like to hang out with, we don’t always intend to fuck all of them, some are just good friends we can be ourselves around.

The thing about Meet & Greets is they can sometimes be difficult to arrange. Many venues get a little nervous when you ask them if they would be willing to host a Swingers’ event even when on-premise play would not be allowed.  Once you find that bar or club that says “yes, have your party here,”  you never want to let them go.  They are doing a huge favor to the Swinger community by hosting those events for us.

So, where is this heading?  LOL  We have some friends, Mischief Social Club, hosting a Meet & Greet this weekend at The Lodge in Boonsboro, MD and we want it to be as successful as possible for Mischief & the Lodge because we all win if there is a successful regularly scheduled Meet & Greet in the area.

If you have ever been curious about Swinging, a Meet & Greet is the event to attend.  You can meet others in the Lifestyle without the pressure to play.  Once you meet “us” (Swingers), you will find, we are just like you.  Just a LOT more fun.

Here’s the details from Mischief for their Meet & Greet:

Mischief presents….XXXMas in July! Meet & Greet

Mischief presents….XXXMas in July!
Meet & Greet

Bring out the red velour with white fur trim
And matching lingerie
Make sure it’s figure hugging short and tight
And shows all you’d want to see
Show off your moves on the dancefloor, chill out in the comfy lounge, grab a cool cocktail at the bar.

The Lodge

21614 National Pike
Boonsboro, Maryland 21713

$4 Cover; $7 After 10PM
21+ w/Valid Govt ID, No Exceptions

Beats by DJ ZANDER
High-Energy • Top 40 • House + Club Classics & Anthems



Life happens…

Well, we were supposed to have the most awesome Pin-Up event ever on June 17th at the Badd Kitty Club in Feredonia, NY, but, life happens.  Originally we had planned to have Ginger Snap from pinupbyginger.com doing free Pin-up photos; live music by The Irving Klaws & the rest of the evening’s entertainment by DJ Kurve. Ginger had a family emergency & had to cancel.  The club asked if we could reschedule for later this summer but Swing! is booked with other events through November of 2017. The club felt that without the Pin-up photographer that the event just wasn’t going to work out so they cancelled.  *sigh*

On the plus side, now we have a really awesome event banner we can hang up in our play-room.

A great time at Shadows in D.C.

red grunge textureWell, the first big event for Swing! at Shadows finally came this last Saturday and WOW did it exceed our expectations.  We thought maybe 100 people might come to the event at Shadows on 4/22.  Instead it as well over 230 people!

The Shadows staff did an amazing job getting people checked in, giving tours & working the bar in an efficient manner.

Our own DJ Kurve played a mix of 90’s hits and current hits that kept the place hopping.

At one point we wondered where everyone went.  A little peek back in the main play areas & we knew… a massive orgy had broken out with at least 20 if not 30 people participating.  What an amazingly beautiful sight.

We can’t wait to head back to Shadows for another go round!

Swinger Pet Peeve

Swingers are people… obviously.  Being people, that means Swingers are just as likely to exhibit behaviors that others find disconcerting. One of our biggest pet peeves are the notorious Lifestyle “Time Wasters”. If you’ve been on a Swinger site before you have probably read in at least one online profile “No Time Wasters” that is how much of a problem they can be.

What is a Time Waster? They are the type that send endless emails back & forth often very flattering or asking numerous questions. They will will often suggest getting together in a somewhat vague way but there will almost never be concrete plans. When there are plans, that’s when they show their true-colors. A true Time Waster that makes plans will almost always have “something come up” and they will have to cancel. That’s if you are lucky, the worst type won’t even cancel, they will just sort of go dark when it comes to communication and just not show up.

Even couples that have been Swinging as long as we have are not immune to Time Wasters. Case in point, a friend of ours said they wanted to have a house party to celebrate my Hubby’s birthday coming up. The last we had heard from them was 2 weeks ago she said she was off of work the next day and she was going to send out invites. This weekend we messaged her asking how the invites were going. Her response, they decided not to do the party because something came up. We kind of knew this was a possibility with them, the Wife of the couple tends to talk about big plans with us but in all the years we have known them she has yet to follow through. When we do get together with them it is because we made the plans or invited them over to our house.

When it was suggested it would have been nice if they had let us know they are cancelling the birthday party, her reply was, “we didn’t think you would notice.”  😮

Wow!  They know we have a young child, they know we had to get a sitter for the night.  Hell, their kid has sat for us before and yet that never even occurred to her.

So, we cancelled the sitter and messaged her, “We cancelled the sitter. Next time please let us know when you are cancelling.” Of course, we don’t plan on letting there be a next time with them. Lesson learned… again.