3somer… “it’s a magic number”

Over the weekend we headed into Washington, DC, to host an event at a Swingers Club and we got talking about how difficult to navigate the usual lifestyle sites are on a cell phone. They all have their quirks that just don’t make them work as well on a mobile platform. Recently, however, we have started to give an app a try that we have so far found to be pretty intuitive & easy to use: 3somer.

Downloading 3somer was free & easy. It’s available in the iTunes Store & Google Play.

The app is secured with a pattern recognition lock which, especially for a couple, can make it easier to remember than a password.

Setting up a free account was quick & actually fun. Yes, they ask you to write a little bit about yourself, but to help you find who you are looking for they ask you a series of interesting multiple-choice personality questions like, “How important is it for a partner to smell good?”, “Do you have hobbies & outside interests?” and “How do you react to people that swear often?” Once we got through the preliminaries we uploaded a photo; we chose to keep ourselves discrete by cropping our faces in the photo strategically.  There are private photo galleries that you can upload more “open” photos to that only those you have granted access will be able to see.  The set-up all-in-all was pretty quick & painless.

The 3somer interface itself is clean & uncluttered.  Unlike some apps, icons are labelled to help you understand what they mean; there are no worries about clicking on something by mistake & pinging that guy you were trying to skip.

“Liking” someone can’t be any easier, you have the option of clicking a ❤️ which then asks if you would like to send a chat request or “continue playing.” Swiping right does the same thing & makes things move quickly.  Swiping left or clicking the   tells 3somer you don’t feel like there is a match & the app moves you on to the new profile. If the other profile has marked you as one they like as well, you get a notification that “it’s a match!”

What we REALLY like, even though it is called 3somer, you aren’t just limited to looking up singles as a couple & singles aren’t limited to just searching couples either. Couples can search couples and singles and there are multiple options to search for as well.  You can search for singles males, single females, Couples (FM), Couples (FF), Couples (MM), & TS/TG/TV members. The app works quite well in that respect. Most of our matches are from other couples; anyone following Swing! knows couples are right up our alley.  😜

One area where 3somer is still improving is the number of members. Yes, we did get to view many, many profiles in our area but a few with similar interests that came up as matches were many States away. This of course will change as more & more people try out 3somer.

All-in-all we really like 3somer, the design is clean and easy to use.  The app doesn’t have any glitches, lock-ups or slowdowns from our experience.  We found many matches within our 100 mile radius, considering we live in a small town but we are 50 miles from Washington, D.C., that was pretty impressive. We’ll keep using 3somer it looks like it will work for our needs.

Swing! is back…

Really, we never went anywhere, life just got in the way. Kids going back to school. Weddings galore. Hubby had a traumatic back injury… You know: life. Anywho, we are back with another event at Shadows Social Club in Hyattsville, MD, THIS Saturday, January 13th! Gulp… Well to sort of follow with the theme of what we’ve been doing out here on the east coast freezing our asses off for the last few weeks, we are gonna have a pajama party! Yes, you can wear your pajamas all day & night yet again AND leave the house for a change. Whoo-hoo!

I’ll just be glad to get out of the house & maybe we’ll find some new friends to fuck.

Swinger Pet Peeve

Swingers are people… obviously.  Being people, that means Swingers are just as likely to exhibit behaviors that others find disconcerting. One of our biggest pet peeves are the notorious Lifestyle “Time Wasters”. If you’ve been on a Swinger site before you have probably read in at least one online profile “No Time Wasters” that is how much of a problem they can be.

What is a Time Waster? They are the type that send endless emails back & forth often very flattering or asking numerous questions. They will will often suggest getting together in a somewhat vague way but there will almost never be concrete plans. When there are plans, that’s when they show their true-colors. A true Time Waster that makes plans will almost always have “something come up” and they will have to cancel. That’s if you are lucky, the worst type won’t even cancel, they will just sort of go dark when it comes to communication and just not show up.

Even couples that have been Swinging as long as we have are not immune to Time Wasters. Case in point, a friend of ours said they wanted to have a house party to celebrate my Hubby’s birthday coming up. The last we had heard from them was 2 weeks ago she said she was off of work the next day and she was going to send out invites. This weekend we messaged her asking how the invites were going. Her response, they decided not to do the party because something came up. We kind of knew this was a possibility with them, the Wife of the couple tends to talk about big plans with us but in all the years we have known them she has yet to follow through. When we do get together with them it is because we made the plans or invited them over to our house.

When it was suggested it would have been nice if they had let us know they are cancelling the birthday party, her reply was, “we didn’t think you would notice.”  😮

Wow!  They know we have a young child, they know we had to get a sitter for the night.  Hell, their kid has sat for us before and yet that never even occurred to her.

So, we cancelled the sitter and messaged her, “We cancelled the sitter. Next time please let us know when you are cancelling.” Of course, we don’t plan on letting there be a next time with them. Lesson learned… again.

Swinger Comedy?

A few weeks ago a friend of ours won 20 tickets to a comedy club to see a show.  A few of us ended up going to see 4 comedians with 3 being local stand-ups & one being “a national headliner and former finalist on Last Comic Standing.” We had great expectations.  The locals were hilarious, the headliner was a snooze.

Anyway, my limited understanding is most comedy is funny because people can relate personally to the situations in the jokes. However… Swinger comedy, MOST people will not relate personally to Swinging but we all got to talking about how some of the situational experiences of Swingers can be quite funny even to the non-Swingers.

Here are some examples of what I thought would be hilarious even if most people could not directly relate to them:

  • Ladies, ever been finger-banged by another chick with really long nails? Your ass-cheeks learn to walk backwards on their own.
  • That moment when in an orgy the guy you are fucking starts negotiating where he wants to cum on you. “Can I cum on your face?”
    “How about on your tits?”
    “Tits are good, but if I see you aiming anywhere higher nothing will be coming out of your balls for weeks.”
  • You have to pull a heavy, girthy cock out of your mouth to ask, “What is your name again?”
  • You say to one guy, “Wrong hole! Wrong hole!” Then to the less-endowed of the two guys, “Ok, now that he’s in YOU can put YOURS in my ass.”

I don’t know.  Maybe my act needs some work.

Swing Out Socials GLOW PARTY at The Korral

So, you may or may not know that Hubby & I run our own Swingers’ group & host Swingers’ events for our group called Swing!.  Being that we are almost always the ones running the events or parties we frequently don’t get much of a chance to play when we go to a Swingers’ Club event.  We are hoping to change that this weekend.  😜

I had noticed a couple weeks ago that we had gotten invites to the Glow Party being hosted by our friends at Swing Out Socials (SOS) in Pennsylvania at one of our favorite Swingers’ clubs, The Korral. Hubby said we should definitely go and try to have some naughty fun.  I arranged a sitter for us & tomorrow we are heading out to our first Glow Party.  Yes, you heard that right, we have NEVER been to a Glow Party before. We’ve been checking all of the usual lifestyle sites we are on (SwingLifestyle, Kasidie, LoveVoodooAltPlayground, Quiver, SwingTowns) & this SOS event is already looking like it is going to be CRAZY.  Combined with all of the sites & SOS’s Facebook group, there are easily 250-300 people signed up to attend.

We’ve got the sitter arranged, we bought our UV reactive & glowing clothes & accessories… We are ready to get our Glow & Swing on!


So I migrated to a new URL for Swing! Muses because I didn’t want the goofy “wordpress” thing on there. I just wanted it to be SwingMuses.com.  Of course, none of the customizations we made transferred and for some reason we can’t remember where we made them.  Hubby & I tried for hours to track it down.  So, at least for a while, all the text except for in posts will be blue or gray.


“Valentine’s Day” Gift…

Liberator Heart Wedge®

Liberator Heart Wedge®

I told Hubby I wanted to try out a Liberator Wedge and directed him to Better Sex by Sinclair Institute.  He sent me a few options. He and I agreed that the Liberator Heart Wedge looked like the best place to start.  He said the Heart Wedge seemed the most fitting because it can be a Valentine’s Day gift for both of us too.  💕  LOL

Hubby being Hubby, he shopped around for the best deal he could find.  Usually Liberator products have a maximum 10% discount allowed, but Hubby found a link that took $20 off a $60 purchase.  He said he got the normally $69.95 Heart Wedge for $49.95 AND free shipping with his link:  BetterSex take $20 off $60 or more

I am very excited to try it out and write a review about it.  Maybe I can convince him to let me have it early so I can let him have it early.  😜

Product Review: Astroglide Spark


Astroglide Spark

So we got our “hands” on some Astroglide Spark and I believe we have a new favorite lube! Hubby & I tried Spark for the first time last night & we loved it. As a couple that is involved in the Swinger Lifestyle and runs a Swingers’ group, you start to learn what does & doesn’t work for you when it comes to lubrication. Spark fills all the needs quite nicely; it has a natural feel like a water-based lube, but it is long lasting like a silicone lube as well.

So, we decided to try Spark last night like we were newbies that have never used lube before. Instead of a lot of foreplay to get the natural lubricants flowing, Hubby lubed us both up with Spark & went straight to work. Wow! There was no initial friction or tackiness until the lube warmed up like there can be with other freshly applied lubricants; everything was ready to go right out of the gate. Sex for us tends to last into what many people would consider pretty long sessions. An hour is short with 2-3 hours not being unusual. There was no breakdown of Spark after over an hour of play, we never had to reapply at all.

We can easily see Spark becoming our “go to” lube for one-on-one play, anal play AND in a group play situation. Clearly Spark has nailed the formula to last for long sessions of smooth play without having to worry about needing to reapply. We still haven’t tried Spark in a multiple partner situation or with toys yet but we are expecting great things from Spark.

Periods suck!


We’ve had a Swinger date night planned with one of our favorite couples for tonight for weeks. Guess who just got her period. 😭

What’s the point?

Swing! Muses

Swing! Muses

Swing! Muses is basically where we will post thoughts, ideas, site & product reviews that are related to the Swinger Lifestyle. Hopefully it will be an interesting read, but, meh, you never know.