3somer… “it’s a magic number”

Over the weekend we headed into Washington, DC, to host an event at a Swingers Club and we got talking about how difficult to navigate the usual lifestyle sites are on a cell phone. They all have their quirks that just don’t make them work as well on a mobile platform. Recently, however, we have started to give an app a try that we have so far found to be pretty intuitive & easy to use: 3somer.

Downloading 3somer was free & easy. It’s available in the iTunes Store & Google Play.

The app is secured with a pattern recognition lock which, especially for a couple, can make it easier to remember than a password.

Setting up a free account was quick & actually fun. Yes, they ask you to write a little bit about yourself, but to help you find who you are looking for they ask you a series of interesting multiple-choice personality questions like, “How important is it for a partner to smell good?”, “Do you have hobbies & outside interests?” and “How do you react to people that swear often?” Once we got through the preliminaries we uploaded a photo; we chose to keep ourselves discrete by cropping our faces in the photo strategically.  There are private photo galleries that you can upload more “open” photos to that only those you have granted access will be able to see.  The set-up all-in-all was pretty quick & painless.

The 3somer interface itself is clean & uncluttered.  Unlike some apps, icons are labelled to help you understand what they mean; there are no worries about clicking on something by mistake & pinging that guy you were trying to skip.

“Liking” someone can’t be any easier, you have the option of clicking a ❤️ which then asks if you would like to send a chat request or “continue playing.” Swiping right does the same thing & makes things move quickly.  Swiping left or clicking the   tells 3somer you don’t feel like there is a match & the app moves you on to the new profile. If the other profile has marked you as one they like as well, you get a notification that “it’s a match!”

What we REALLY like, even though it is called 3somer, you aren’t just limited to looking up singles as a couple & singles aren’t limited to just searching couples either. Couples can search couples and singles and there are multiple options to search for as well.  You can search for singles males, single females, Couples (FM), Couples (FF), Couples (MM), & TS/TG/TV members. The app works quite well in that respect. Most of our matches are from other couples; anyone following Swing! knows couples are right up our alley.  😜

One area where 3somer is still improving is the number of members. Yes, we did get to view many, many profiles in our area but a few with similar interests that came up as matches were many States away. This of course will change as more & more people try out 3somer.

All-in-all we really like 3somer, the design is clean and easy to use.  The app doesn’t have any glitches, lock-ups or slowdowns from our experience.  We found many matches within our 100 mile radius, considering we live in a small town but we are 50 miles from Washington, D.C., that was pretty impressive. We’ll keep using 3somer it looks like it will work for our needs.

Are we too picky?

Let me preface this with “WE ARE NOT KEN & BARBIE.”  You’ll see that phrase a lot when you go on a Swinger Lifestyle sites like SwingLifestyle, Kasidie, Quiver, Swingers Date Club or SwingTowns. But in this case I am actually talking about us. Hubby & I are comfortably in our 40s.  I’m closer to 40 while Hubby is closing in on 50.  We both have a few extra pounds but we are both trying to shed a few. Why do I bring this up?  Just to let you know we aren’t 30-something Swingers with rock-hard abs & even my boobs are still my originals too.  LOL

While we do love meeting new people, not everyone we meet is someone we want to play with. We pretty much assume everyone else is like this as well. We don’t take offense if someone isn’t interested in us. We aren’t everyone else’s cup of tea either. When we first started Swinging a few years ago, I was in my early-30s & Hubby had just hit 40 himself.  Back then we were a pretty hot property.  Apparently we were young enough that we piqued the interest of many more Swingers than we do now. Now, things have changed somewhat.  We play less, but we are more selective. Appearances are not always the driving factor for us, we usually prefer if there is that “connection” with another couple/single before we become interested in fucking them.

Age can be a deciding factor for us. Lately, and I’m not sure why, we have been getting more contacts from Swingers in their late 60s. Some are as much as 20 years older than Hubby and that puts them pert-near 70 years old.  While we are getting older, Hubby & I aren’t quite ready to go there yet.  So far the biggest age difference for us with playmates has been we played wth a 23 year-old couple when Hubby was 43 and we played with a 55 year-old couple (she looked like Ginger Grant in her prime from Gilligan’s Island) when I was 37.  However, those couples were a good fit for us at the time though so the age differences didn’t matter.  We just had sexy fun times fucking. But frankly, we haven’t found anyone we have been attracted to that is 20 years older than Hubby or even 20 years older than me for that matter. Yes, age is just a number, but there has to be that connection too. That doesn’t mean I am saying “don’t contact us if you are old.” It just means, don’t be offended if we say “thank you, but we feel we aren’t really compatible.”

You be fair & polite with us & we will do the same for you. After all, “We aren’t Ken & Barbie.” 

 

No Expectations… (But, I want an Orgy)

A few years ago we were hosting a Meet & Greet at one of our favorite venues the night of my birthday. As a surprise, Hubby had gotten a cake, decorated our hotel suite & invited 15-20 of our closest friends back to our suite for *ahem* cake & cocktails.  What ensued was the best orgy sex I have ever had.  I fucked 4 men that night & had oral with a few others (guys & girls) as well.  BEST BIRTHDAY EVER!

This Saturday we are back at that same venue hosting another Meet & Greet; actually we have been back there several times over the years.  Sometimes there has been “fun” back at the hotel, other times we didn’t click with anyone else or plans just didn’t gel &Hubby & I played alone, or sometimes Mother Nature interferes (periods can be inconvenient when you are a Swinger).  You just never really know.

Anyway, I am reminiscing about this today particularly because this Saturday may be the last time we can host a Meet & Greet at this club. To say we want to go out with a BANG! would be an understatement. But, we have been at this long enough to know that one of the cardinal rules is & will always be “NO EXPECTATIONS”.  Things rarely happen perfectly as you plan in the Swinger Lifestyle. I know I can sometimes be a little picky with potential play partners & since Hubby & I only play as a couple (we don’t play separate), that can limit our opportunities as well.

So, we can plan, we have bought snacks & enough alcohol & mixers for an after-party back at our suite. We can hope, we’ve informed a few of our friends we have gotten a hotel suite. We just can’t assume anything will actually happen. Because, you really, really just never know if anything will.

Liberator Heart Wedge®

Oh, but I did ask Hubby if I should bring the Liberator Wedge he got me for Valentine’s Day to the hotel, you know, just in case. He said, “YES!”

How To Swing

How To Swing

Swinging, or “the Lifestyle,” is becoming increasingly popular with couples. It’s when you and your partner have sex with other couples or individuals, either at organized events or private parties. Everything is 100% consensual from both partners and swinging has been proven to help strengthen some relationships in many ways. For instance, one partner might want to explore certain sexual fantasies which their lover isn’t into, so swinging lets them indulge that fantasy without cheating. Other couples have sex with different people so they can learn new techniques or just widen their experience, which makes them better in bed with their regular lover. But it can be tricky to know if swinging is right for you. Also, how do you even approach the subject with your wife or girlfriend?

How to bring it up

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together or how well you think you know your lover, swinging is never an easy subject to broach. In fact, the longer you’ve been in a relationship, the trickier it can be, because your lover will wonder why it’s taken so long for you to mention it. Don’t just steam on in and say “I want to try swinging,” you need to be more subtle. Perhaps say that you read something in the newspaper and you were wondering about what her views were. Or you could tell her that you saw a TV program that claimed most women have fantasies about swinging, so is this true for her? Gauge her reaction and trust your instinct about whether you can pursue the subject further.  […]

via How To Swing — Naughty Lifestyle Guide

5 Questions To Ask Before You SWING

#4 is very important!

Cassidy London

People often ask those of us in the lifestyle how we knew we were ready to swing. The short answer is that like anything else, you just don’t know until you try it. This is of course true but….honestly, though there is a lot more to it than that 😉 Want a more in-depth answer? Start here with these 5 questions to ask both yourself and your partner before you swing. 

#1 What do you think it means?

The uninformed often think it’s about 1970’s style wife swap parties or sleazy mass orgies with strangers. The reality of modern day swinging couldn’t be farther from that image at all. Many times the players do know each other (to a varying degrees) and there’s a great sense of mutual respect within the community. Nothing sleazy about it. Period.

You’re also not a swinger because of that one crazy night in college…

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